MODULE 1

TAKE A MOMENT

Introduction video to Module 1

INTRODUCTION TO MODULE 1

Welcome to the first module of your inner restart. You might be surprised that we're not starting with some big plan or list of goals. Instead, we're going to pause. Completely.

Why pause?

92% of people fail to keep their New Year's resolutions by March. Why? Because they never paused to understand their starting position.

Imagine: You're driving and realize you're lost. What's the first thing you do? You stop. You look at the map. You figure out where you are. Only then can you plan the route to where you want to go.

Your life works the same way. Without honest self-awareness, any plan for change is just shooting in the dark.

Scientific background

Dr. Tasha Eurich from the University of Colorado analyzed data from 5000+ people and discovered an alarming fact: 95% of people think they know themselves well, but only 10-15% actually do.

A Harvard study with 442 managers showed: Those who regularly engage in structured self-reflection are 25% more successful and 23% happier.

What you'll learn in this module

  • 3 practical exercises for deeper self-awareness
  • Scientific background of each technique
  • Step-by-step guides with examples

Value: A changed perspective on your life so far

Go through the individual exercises

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SFF TECHNIQUE

SURPRISE-FRUSTRATION-FAILURE: FIND YOUR BEHAVIOR PATTERNS

Scientific background

Dr. Giada Di Stefano from Harvard analyzed 442 managers and discovered: Those who regularly analyze critical life moments are 25% more successful.

Critical moments are 3 types of situations:

  • Surprise - when something happened differently than you expected
  • Frustration - what upset or disappointed you
  • Failure - when things didn't work out as planned

Example of surprise: "I had a presentation for 20 people at work. I was nervous all week because I'm not a good speaker. I thought it would be a disaster. But in the end, everyone applauded and my boss said it was the best presentation of the year. It completely surprised me."

📋 WORKSHEET: SFF ANALYSIS

SURPRISE (3 situations):

FRUSTRATION (3 situations):

FAILURE (3 situations):

MAIN PATTERNS ACROSS ALL SITUATIONS:

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ANTI-VALUES METHOD

DISCOVER YOUR TRUE VALUES

Why traditional value searching doesn't work

Problem: When you ask people "What's important to you?", they say things like "health, family, success". But 73% of people live in contradiction to their stated values.

What are anti-values?

Anti-values = things, traits, or behaviors that physically repel or anger you.

Example: If lying really bothers you, your value is probably honesty/authenticity.

📋 WORKSHEET: ANTI-VALUES

STRONG ANTI-VALUES → POSITIVE VALUES:

TOP 3 MOST IMPORTANT VALUES:

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MEMENTO MORI

AWARENESS OF FINITUDE

Why are we talking about death in a course about positive change?

Awareness of finitude is one of the most powerful tools for finding real priorities.

What is Memento Mori?

Memento Mori = Latin phrase "remember that you will die"

SCENARIO

Imagine in great detail:

You're sitting in your doctor's office. He just got your test results. He looks at you with a serious expression and says:

"I have difficult news for you. You have a rare genetic disease. The good news is you won't suffer - no pain, no suffering. But the bad news is that your body will stop functioning in exactly 5 years. Medicine can't do anything about it yet, unfortunately. I'm very sorry."

5 years from today will be your last day.

📋 WORKSHEET: MEMENTO MORI

If I had 5 years to live:

REALITY CHECK - Why aren't you doing this now?

GAP ANALYSIS:

MODULE 1 CONCLUSION: YOUR STARTING POSITION

Congratulations!

You've completed the 3 most important exercises for self-awareness. Why are they the most important? Because most people are afraid to look in the mirror. You did it.

What you've gained:

  • SFF analysis - you understand your behavior patterns in critical moments
  • True values - you have your authentic inner compass
  • Clear priorities - you know what's truly important (Memento Mori)

BONUS SECTION: ADVANCED TECHNIQUES

Neurohacking for better self-reflection

Optimal timing according to chronobiology:

  • Best time for SFF analysis: 7:00-9:00 AM (morning mental clarity)
  • Best time for determining values: 2:00-4:00 PM (afternoon focus)
  • Best time for Memento Mori: 9:00-10:00 PM (before sleep)

Environment for maximum effectiveness:

  • Temperature: 64-70°F / 18-21°C (optimal for concentration)
  • Light: Warm light, not too bright
  • Sound: Absolute silence or white noise
  • Position: Sitting, not lying down (better cognitive function)

Guide if a problem arises

PROBLEM: "I can't focus on the exercise"

SOLUTION:

  • Try shorter versions (10 minutes instead of 30)
  • Change the environment
  • Use the 25/5 technique (25 min focus, 5 min break)

PROBLEM: "My answers are too superficial"

SOLUTION:

  • For each answer, ask "Why?" 3 times
  • Imagine you're explaining it to a friend
  • Write the first thing that comes to mind - without censorship